Posts Tagged ‘Confidence’

Are you interested in knowing how NLP can help you enhance your life?

25/01/2010

Here’s a video of Dr. Richard Bandler, co-creator of NLP and personal mentor, talking about Neuro Linguistic Programming and how it can help you massively improve any aspect of your life, quickly and effectively.

Feel free to post any comments or questions you may have, and I will personally answer every one of them.

Anna

Stop wishing and start reprogramming

24/01/2010

“In order to change you must be sick and tired of being sick and tired”


Over the years I’ve read thousands of books and attended countless seminars on subjects such as goal setting, success, achievement, happiness…you mention it, I have done it!

I learnt a lot. I mean, I memorised the stuff, but never really put it into practice.

I used to wonder why after so many hours studying, so much knowledge, I wasn’t making things happen in my life.

The truth was, I was not able to achieve anything because back then I thought I wasn’t an “achiever”. I thought certain people are the type of people who accomplish a lot in life, and that I was not that type of person.

To support that belief,  all I was really doing was daydream  now and again about certain things I thought would be nice to have in my life. But I wasn’t doing anything to get those things.

And as my dear mum says: dreaming nice things is great, but only while your asleep.

While awake, you must do more than daydream.

The thing is, deep inside, I used to think that the things I wanted were unattainable for me. That they were ok for other people to have, but that they weren’t really for me.

Part of the excuse why I didn’t take action was my childhood programming. Part of it was pure laziness. I was too comfortable for my own good.

I had learnt that your beliefs about yourself and the world determine your behaviour, and consequently the results you get in life.

But I didn’t really know what this really meant, or how it applied to me.

I didn’t even know that limiting beliefs can be shed, just like snake skin, and that you can adopt new more useful ones, that will allow you to move forward swiftly, and live the life you really want to live.

It was only when I discovered nlp and hypnosis that I learnt how you can do this really quickly.

From personal experience, and from coaching clients, I now know that in order to speed up this process, it helps that  you are really fed up. That you have  just had enough of your present situation. And that change is the only way forward for you.

You have to want something so badly, that the thought of not having it doesn’t even cross your mind.  And if it ever does, it totally and utterly repulses you to the point that you will do anything, whatever it takes, to get what you want.

Think about this for a second…

Most people who seem to naturally lead a healthy lifestyle will tell you things like: ”It’s part of who I am”, “I couldn’t live any other way”, or “There’s no way I’d ever eat that/do that”

This is because when you have made the decision that this is the type of person you really are, you get so much pleasure out of everything it involves, that the thought of not being healthy is just unfathomable.

This is the way I think now. Things that in the past used to be a chore, are now an intrinsic part of my everyday life.

I do them naturally and almost unconsciously, because I reprogrammed my mind so I could be the person I wanted to be.

Making decisions around food are not a struggle, but very quickly and easily made.

I don’t force myself to exercise. I look forward to it.

I am not a slave to the scales. And I don’t waste any time and energy feeling guilty, bad, or focusing on what I don’t like about myself, or what I don’t want.

Because that is not how a truly healthy and fit person behaves.

If you too want to make some big lasting changes, then you have to stop wishing, hoping, daydreaming you were slimmer, healthier, fitter…

You have to believe you already are those things with every single cell in your body, from the very core of your being.

Believe in your mind, and your body will follow.

It’s not about forcing yourself to believe though. It’s about reprogramming your mind so you can become the person you want to be.

Do this and you’ll be  supersonically accelerating the process of looking the way you want to look, and feeling the way you want to feel.

Anna


Reprogramming your mind for success



Bookmark & Share

How lions can help you make your life better

20/01/2010

If self doubt and fear keeping you from doing the things you want to do in life,

If you have dreams, goals and expectations for yourself,

If you sometimes get frustrated and mad at yourself because you are not doing anything to make these things happen…

You are not alone, and the good news is that there is something you can do about it.

Remember when you were a kid and and someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up?

A fire fighter, a movie star, Indiana Jones, a Lego man… yes, and I bet you didn’t flinch for a second or thought is this actually going to be possible at all, or how am I going to do this, or I am just not good enough to be a Lego man!

You believed anything is possible.

Your mind was working effectively: You want, you imagine, you go get it.

Many of my clients tell me they hate the way they look, that they feel fat, unhealthy, tired and depressed

When I ask them what’s stopping them from looking and feeling the way they want, the answer is usually: I don’t know, or I don’t think I can do it, or what if I fail?

Human self doubt and fear fascinates me. I say human because sometimes I can’t help comparing us to the animal kingdom.

Let me explain… African lions must hunt daily to survive. Actually, this seems to be the lionesses’ task and often they’ll hunt together. They’ll go somewhere where they know their prey is likely to hang out. Usually close to water.

How do I know this? Thanks to David, Attenborough!

The lionesses see their prey, devise a strategy, take action. They chase the prey until they make the kill, or the animal manages to get away.

If they succeed, great! If the prey  gets away, what do they do?

Do they spend hours on end feeling bad about themselves for having failed?

Do they decide there is no point in trying to hunt again in case they fail?

Do they give up hunting altogether as it seems they are no good at it cos they failed before?

No, they don’t. They look for the next opportunity.

Once I gave a client this example and he said: how can you compare, if lions stop hunting they’ll die and just get extinct.

To which I replied: Well, in my view, if you are not hunting for the things you want in your life, then you are not really living anyway.

If you spend your life wishing things were different, while doing nothing to change your situation…

If all you do is feel bad about the fact you are not doing anything, doubting your ability to do what you were born to do, fearing failure…

If you are not at least trying to live the life you want… are you really alive?

A good friend once shyly confided in me that they could not ride a bike without stabilisers.

I know a lot of people who can’t but they are all under ten years of age. My friend is twenty two.

I asked how come he couldn’t ride a bike without stabilisers. I knew my friend had been badly bullied as a child and I assumed maybe that had something to do with it. He said not at all.

I asked if it his parents hadn’t taught him. He said they had certainly tried.

Then I got really curious and asked: What happened then?

He replied: I guess I one day I just told myself I couldn’t do it… and so, I didn’t do it.

There’s no way a lion would ever give up that easily…

What is the main difference between you and that person who is living the life you would love to live, doing the things you want to do? Is it to do with talent, knowledge, experience, social status, money…?

Is it possible that they also doubt their ability sometimes, that they make mistakes, that they have ups and downs?

I believe author Susan Jeffers hit the nail in the head when she wrote: Feel the fear and do it anyway.

You see, someone who is doing the things you would like to do, and living the kind of life you would like to live,  may be fearful sometimes too, and go for it anyway!

Live your life like a lion,


Anna




Bookmark & Share

A Youth Injection without the needle or the poison

13/01/2010

The beauty and anti aging industries are worth  billions of euro.

Every year women and more and more men all over the world spend ludicrous amounts of money in a quest to look beautiful, sexy and young.

Fake lashes, fake hair, fair nails, fake breasts, thinified bodies, tightened and masked faces…

But does all of this really make people look more beautiful, sexier and younger?

And if so, at what cost?

It’s a known fact that many ingredients used in beauty, anti aging products, and make up are carcinogenic.

These chemicals are used by many of your favourite brands.

If you think lathering or injecting these products on your face and body is going to make you younger, think again.

If anything, they are making you age faster, and may potentially cause disease.

Add this to lack of sleep, stress, alcohol, smoking, dehydration, bad nutrition,  overeating, and a sedentary lifestyle… and you have the best aging cocktail in the world.

I am convinced that the less you mess with your body the better.

I got the best beauty tips from my gramma and my mum.

When I got married last August, a lot of my guests were trying to do the maths.

“Anna how come your mum is so young? She must’ve had you when she was very young” they said.

Many thought she was in her mid forties. She is in her mid sixties. And she looks more beautiful than ever.

I can count the amount of times she’s worn make up in her whole life with the fingers in my two hands. She’s never had a facial, a manicure, a pedicure, or any other beauty treatment.

Her beauty secret?

She washes her face every morning. She eats a mediterranean diet. She exercises every day. She relaxes with yoga. She sleeps like a log.

I do exactly the same, and a lot of people don’t believe it when they find out I am six years older than my husband.

The only products I use are completely natural and most of them I make in my own kitchen.

But what I think makes a huge difference is the weekly youth inductions I subject myself to.

I use nlp and hypnosis to induce myself into a state of deep relaxation that allows me to reprogram my mind to bring out the attributes of beauty and youthfulness.

At the end of a twenty-minute session, I wake up refreshed and invigorated. It usually feels like the best nap you’ve ever had.

I have done inductions like this with clients, and they tell me that afterwards, they look in the mirror and they can see and feel the difference straight away.

Remember when you were a child, and you were fresh, dynamic, full of energy, flexible, strong, fast, powerful, playful, bold, exuded positive energy and a boundless imagination…?

Youth and beauty are about so much more than what people can see on the surface. It’s about what people can feel from you.

You can be beautiful and young again, quickly, and with no harmful side effects.

All it takes is twenty minutes and a pillow!

Anna


Young and beautiful with NLP



Bookmark & Share

The one thing you need to do to quit smoking

11/01/2010

Singer Jamelia struck a cord last week when, at a TV program, she talked about quitting smoking. She said that to her it was really simple, and that “if you don’t want to do something, don’t do it”.

In order to smoke people have to think  about it, think of  a shop where they sell tobacco, go there, buy it, find a place where they can smoke it, open it, take it, hold it light it, suck it, taste it, inhale it, swallow it, find a place to put it off, put it off…

It takes a lot of effort, time and money to smoke.

To quit, all you have to you is… NOTHING.

Getting in shape, for example, requires a lot of effort and preparation.

To quit smoking, all you have to do is absolutely nothing. None of the above.

How do you do this?

Well, decisions define who you are. You make decisions every moment of your life, so, you define yourself every single moment.

The trick is in asking yourself the right questions.

Are you interested in having the quality of your life be better?

Some of my clients compare cigarettes to a good friend. But, would a good friend kill you? Would a good friend torture you for years so you die a slow painful death?

Some tell me they smoke because they are bored, stressed out, because they want to fit in, because they think it will keep them slim…

Others give me the excuse of a night out. But, does that mean every one else who doesn’t smoke stay home on a Saturday night?

And, if your best friend beat someone on a Saturday night out and said “well, I was drunk so… I couldn’t help it”, would you accept it as an excuse?

You might be thinking, well, Anna , you can’t compare, it is not the same thing, yada yada…

It is only when you have quit making excuses for yourself, and You’ve made the decision to quit smoking that you’ll start to think differently about it.

In fact, it is so easy to quit, it takes my clients just one session.

See, we all have choices. You can choose to spend your future in a hospital bed, spend your money in treatments, procedures, medecins, pain relief, an early tombstone…

Or, you can choose to quit now, and live the future you really want to live.

Anna




Bookmark & Share

No time to get fit? Nowhere to do it? No Excuses…

06/01/2010

Cold and snowy outside? Here’s a video of me training, with kettlebells, in my kitchen!

Anna



Bookmark & Share

If you want to achieve your goals this year you need to STOP DOING THIS

04/01/2010

If you are making resolutions and you are thinking about all the things you want to stop doing, like…

I have to stop drinking so much, I must give up chocolate, I should stop smoking, I shouldn’t spend that much money, I need to lose weight

Then stop, because it is not going to work for you.

You may have heard the saying “whatever you focus on you get more of”.

This means that if you focus on what you don’t want, you’ll get more of what you don’t want.

So, if for example,  you want to lose weight, and you are thinking things like:

I hate the way I look, I feel so heavy, I look horrible, I have huge thighs, my tummy looks disgusting…

Then you are probably also thinking:

That’s it, I can’t have bread any more, I am not allowed to eat chocolate, I shouldn’t eat pasta, I have to stop eating take aways, no more cake for me…

Then you have to realise that all you are doing is making it even harder for yourself, because you are focusing on all the stuff you don’t want.

If you are spending all your time thinking about all the things you don’t want, can’t have and shouldn’t do, then when are you thinking about what you do want?

Before you can make any changes in your life, you must change your mindset. You must change the way you think.

Otherwise, no matter how much you wish for something, how much you hope it happens, you will not get it.

Your mind doesn not recognize all the don’ts, shouldn’ts, can’ts… you are thinking.

It only recognizes positive commands.

So, when you say things like “I can’t have chocolate”, your mind processes “have chocolate”.

When you say “Don’t eat those fries”, your mind recognizes “eat those fries”.

And then you try and fight that command with will power alone? Pretty much impossible.

Unless you stop focusing on what you don’t want, you are wasting your time and setting yourself up for disappointment.

You must stop cluttering your mind thinking and talking about what you don’t want.

Anna

Unlock your mind



Bookmark & Share

Shopping for after Christmas sales? The best buy ever starts with Y…

26/12/2009

We got lots of useful beliefs, and tons of inspiration and motivation!

Too late, too old, not ready yet, not clever enough, too dear, too hard… what is your excuse for not setting out to get what you want in the new year?

Your ability to turn excuses into more useful beliefs will determine your success in 2010.

When you start to think more usefully, things will start to change for you.

When you think about the goals you want to achieve, you will feel differently about them. They will simply seem more doable.

Whatever it is that you want, whether you want a more successful career, better relationships, more money, love, a healthier and fitter body

You can have it when you get yourself in the right mindset, identify the skills you need to make it happen, and take consistent and focused action.

How can you do this? Well, here how you can get started…

Take a couple of minutes to write down all the negative things you usually tell yourself that have been keeping you from taking action in a particular area. Then turn this into more useful  beliefs.

For example: Getting a new job

Negative beliefs Useful  beliefs
– I am not good enough at public speaking

–  I am not a good sales person

–  I am not qualified enough for the job

–  I am not confident enough for the interview

– I can become better at public speaking by…

–  I can become a better sales person by…

– I can be more qualified for the job by…

– I can be more confident at the interview by…

The endings you choose for your “useful beliefs” statements, will give you an idea of the  skills you need to get better at.

Your objectives will seem more real and achievable once you have identified what  it is that you need to improve.

This is why the best investment you will make this year is in improving Yourself; getting the necessary skills  for you to achieve your goals more quickly and effortlessly.

Nothing will ever be as rewarding, long-lasting and good value for money. Talk about bargains!

One of my clients  was made redundant from her job this year and came to me for help.

We discussed a number of ideas, all of which she turned down. She said she was too old to start over. She is in her early sixties.

So we googled away, and this is a shortened list of what we found out:

  • Verdi composed his Ave Maria at age 85.
  • Harlan Sanders started Kentucky Fried Chicken at 65.
  • Ronald Reagan didn’t get into politics until he was 55.
  • Laura Ingalls Wilder (author of Little House on the Prairie) published her first book in her 60s.
  • Rodney Dangerfield didn’t start doing comedy until he was 45.
  • Cezanne’s most highly prized paintings were done in his 60s.
  • Alfred Hitchcock’s best films, including Vertigo and Psycho, were done in his late 50s and early 60s.

Not only was she shocked, but she was also deeply inspired.

After this, we worked together on turning her excuses into reasons why she wanted to start over doing something she loved.

Then we identified the skills she needed to acquire in order to do this, and we put together an action plan that worked for her.

She took action straight away, and to this day she emails me telling me how she feels happier and more accomplished than ever.

See, when it comes to personal accomplishment, as George Washington once said, ninety-nine per cent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.

So, remember, if you have things you want to achieve in the new year, quit making excuses and avail of the best special offer ever: The opportunity to improve yourself and the quality of your life.

Anna



Bookmark & Share

Inspirational person of the month – December 2009

07/12/2009

Daniel Holfeld  is a photographer practicing in fashion, beauty, advertising and art based photography (www.danielholfeld.com). Photography is his first passion and after that comes yoga, which he has practised since he was 16.

A few months ago he started practicing Bikram yoga, a 90 minute cardiovascular work out of 26 postures done in a studio heated to 40.5°C.

For the first time the European Yoga Championships were being held in Dublin last month and Daniel decided to go forward and compete. He got placed and will continue on to represent Ireland in the Yoga World Cup on the 13th February in LA.

A: Daniel, why did you decide to take part in this competition in the first place?

D: At first I was quite shy about competing. I had never heard of a yoga competition before! But I slowly began to change my mind when I saw the other Irish competitors training and pushing themselves to reach their goals in time for the competition. So I signed up and joined the training. Also I thought, “why not!”. I have practiced since I was 16, so it was time to take on a challenge and see just how far I could go with it. Also I wanted to represent the guys, because I think people tend to think of yoga as a girls sport!

A: How do you fit training for a competition like this around your working life?
D: It wasn’t easy. In the run up to the competition I was practising every day after work in the evenings and then doing extra advanced classes on the weekends. So, on a Friday evening and Sunday I would be doing about 5 hours of yoga. It took up a lot of my time, but it was rewarding and great to see the results in my body, using different muscles and seeing a deeper practise just encouraged me to keep going no matter how much it ate into my free time. I think you’ll find the time to do anything you love and where you can see the results!

A: How do you discipline yourself to train when you’ve had a bad day, for example?
D: The hardest thing to do with any training is to start the session. So, if I’ve had a bad day I always say to myself “just start” and the rest will take care of itself. And it does, within the first 10 mins you are having a great session. Often the times when you feel the worst you end up have the best training. In order to keep up the regular discipline my body reminds me, because you feel so good with regular training and with anything good, you don’t want it to stop. Also, the group morale in the studio is great, we encourage each other a lot, which really helps.

A: What motivates you to keep going?
D: I’m motivated by setting new goals for myself. With yoga you can always learn new things about your body and how it reacts to more training. The results you get show just how malleable the body is and how much it can actually handle. For example, whenever I think I can’t go any further I always try, even if it means stretching a few more inches, then you see that you can do it, so the next time you try again. Also, I remind myself of how good I will feel after the
training, which is great motivation.

A: What inspires you?
D: This competition was a huge inspiration, setting myself this goal as something to work towards. The current two world champions came over and held classes and did demos. Seeing Courtney Mace move was definitely inspiring. In fact I will be going to NY to practise with her before the competition in LA. Never thought my holiday would consist of training but it’s really given me something to aim towards and the opportunity to train alongside a world champ is too good to miss!

A: What is the biggest challenge you have overcome, and how?
D: A few years ago I fell skiing, I went over some ice and my ski didn’t come off. Basically my ski went one way and my body went the other way! I tore my Anterior cruciate ligament. The challenge here was being disabled. At the time I was doing daily ashtanga practice so being bed bound when I got back was difficult for me. But I did the physio and lots of yoga and now its as though I’ve never had anything wrong with my knees. It hasn’t limited me in any way, largely because I stuck to a good physio routine and combined it with my yoga practice.

Inspirational

Every month, I will be interviewing an inspirational person. It could be a friend, a client or it could be you! If you know of anyone who qualifies and would like to inspire others, contact me at anna@delite.ie

Thanks,

Anna

Life coaching – 7 tips on how to choose your coach

21/11/2009

More and more people  are hiring a Life Coach, like me, to help them improve different aspects of their lives. Whether you want a more successful career, better relationships, a fitter body… finding the right mentor can help you get what you want and even exceed your expectations.

After years of experience and many success stories, here is what I, personally, recommend you look for in your coach so you can get the most out of the experience:


1- Look for a certified and accredited coach.

While I don’t have my certificates on display in my office, I do show  my accreditation logo on my website, and you can refer to The Irish Institute of NLP  “NLP Coaches” section, where you will find me listed.

However, it is important you note that a certificate does not automatically make someone a good coach. And in all my years as a coach not one of my clients has ever asked me to show them my certs.

2 – Experience counts, and results count more.

Look for real testimonials and success stories. Thanks to mine, most of my clients come to me referred by current or past clients who have achieved results that surpassed their expectations.

3 – Talk to your potential coach before you make an appointment.

And I don’t mean by email. Before I make an appointment with you I will call you and spend a good twenty minutes finding out if you are right for me, and also if I am right for you.

Because I only take a limited amount of new clients every month, this screening process allows me to know if we connect as people, and also if you have the right attitude and are ready to do what it takes in order to get the results you want.

I assure you any questions you may have will be answered before you decide to book your coaching programme.

4 – Although life coaching can help you in a variety of areas in your life, most coaches have a specialty.

For instance, I can coach you in areas such as: time management, confidence, motivation, business goals, smoking cessation, fear and phobias, etc…

And due to my background in the Health & Fitness industry, I am passionate about helping you get healthier and fitter. So, I my specialty is stress management, weight loss goals, motivation, and craving busting.

My mission is to help you achieve your goals in these areas in record time.

5 – Your coach should walk the talk.

You coach should ont only be super passionate about helping you, but also walk the talk!

One of the main keys to my success as a coach is that I practice what I preach. And I am committed to constantly improving my skills so I can provide you with the most up to date and effective  nlp and life improvement tools so you can get even better results, faster.

Would you hire a personal trainer who looked less than amazing? I know I wouldn’t… So, whatever you coach’s specialty is, look for evidence.

6 – Find out what your coaching programme involves before you make your decision.

Cheaper does not equal better, and vice versa. However, make sure you find out what you are going to get for your money before you commit.

In my case, although I do offer individual coaching sessions, my most popular package is my 4 session coaching programme. This involves 4 one and a half hour-long sessions,  unlimited email support, access to my Delite Blog, free reports and articles, and discounts on a variety of things, such as future coaching sessions, products, seminars, webinars, etc…

What is getting what you want worth to you?

7 – Nice does not necessarily equal good.

One of my clients once said to me “You are not nice, but you are good!”.

I take this as a compliment. Even though I actually happen to be a nice person, my main objective is to help you get what you want, at all costs.

This means you may be challenged and may have to get out of your comfort zone. Sometimes it means tears, sometimes it means laughter… ultimately,  it means you get what you want.

I hope these tips help and as always, your comments are more than welcome!

Thanks,

Anna

life coaching

Say YES!!!