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How lions can help you make your life better


If self doubt and fear keeping you from doing the things you want to do in life,

If you have dreams, goals and expectations for yourself,

If you sometimes get frustrated and mad at yourself because you are not doing anything to make these things happen…

You are not alone, and the good news is that there is something you can do about it.

Remember when you were a kid and and someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up?

A fire fighter, a movie star, Indiana Jones, a Lego man… yes, and I bet you didn’t flinch for a second or thought is this actually going to be possible at all, or how am I going to do this, or I am just not good enough to be a Lego man!

You believed anything is possible.

Your mind was working effectively: You want, you imagine, you go get it.

Many of my clients tell me they hate the way they look, that they feel fat, unhealthy, tired and depressed

When I ask them what’s stopping them from looking and feeling the way they want, the answer is usually: I don’t know, or I don’t think I can do it, or what if I fail?

Human self doubt and fear fascinates me. I say human because sometimes I can’t help comparing us to the animal kingdom.

Let me explain… African lions must hunt daily to survive. Actually, this seems to be the lionesses’ task and often they’ll hunt together. They’ll go somewhere where they know their prey is likely to hang out. Usually close to water.

How do I know this? Thanks to David, Attenborough!

The lionesses see their prey, devise a strategy, take action. They chase the prey until they make the kill, or the animal manages to get away.

If they succeed, great! If the prey  gets away, what do they do?

Do they spend hours on end feeling bad about themselves for having failed?

Do they decide there is no point in trying to hunt again in case they fail?

Do they give up hunting altogether as it seems they are no good at it cos they failed before?

No, they don’t. They look for the next opportunity.

Once I gave a client this example and he said: how can you compare, if lions stop hunting they’ll die and just get extinct.

To which I replied: Well, in my view, if you are not hunting for the things you want in your life, then you are not really living anyway.

If you spend your life wishing things were different, while doing nothing to change your situation…

If all you do is feel bad about the fact you are not doing anything, doubting your ability to do what you were born to do, fearing failure…

If you are not at least trying to live the life you want… are you really alive?

A good friend once shyly confided in me that they could not ride a bike without stabilisers.

I know a lot of people who can’t but they are all under ten years of age. My friend is twenty two.

I asked how come he couldn’t ride a bike without stabilisers. I knew my friend had been badly bullied as a child and I assumed maybe that had something to do with it. He said not at all.

I asked if it his parents hadn’t taught him. He said they had certainly tried.

Then I got really curious and asked: What happened then?

He replied: I guess I one day I just told myself I couldn’t do it… and so, I didn’t do it.

There’s no way a lion would ever give up that easily…

What is the main difference between you and that person who is living the life you would love to live, doing the things you want to do? Is it to do with talent, knowledge, experience, social status, money…?

Is it possible that they also doubt their ability sometimes, that they make mistakes, that they have ups and downs?

I believe author Susan Jeffers hit the nail in the head when she wrote: Feel the fear and do it anyway.

You see, someone who is doing the things you would like to do, and living the kind of life you would like to live,  may be fearful sometimes too, and go for it anyway!

Live your life like a lion,


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Getting fired up


Thanks to everyone to took part in the Superfastfitness Camp last night.

Even through all the grunting and swearing… I personally had a great time!

I have the feeling this group is going to be a lot of fun to train with, and this really excites me.

During the next few weeks, we are going to sweat with each other, push each other, compete against each other,laugh with each other… and get amazingly fit together!

Even though I am already stiff and I know the infamous post workout pains will develop more as the day goes by, I can’t wait for Wednesday. Does this make me a martyr?

Well, maybe… but a happy fit martyr.

My clients and friends often ask me how I motivate myself.

All I have to do is think about last night’s fun, and anticipate Wednesday’s fun.

This is how quickly and easily I get motivated! Notice I focus on the fun part?

Yes, it’s tough, it’s challenging, it’s painful, it makes me gasp for air and sick in my stomach…

Afterwards, my whole body is so shaky, I can barely walk or even make sense. I am like an autumnal leaf falling from a tree.

But I know how good I looked and felt last summer, when I got to under 14% body fat, and was healthier, more toned and fit I have ever been. I have photographic evidence. Not only in a folder in my computer, but also stored in my mind’s “Success Files”.

I did it last year, and I will do it again.

Thinking about it now gets me so fired up I can barely stay on the chair and finish writing this post.

I have just generated tons of energy in a matter of seconds!

What do you do to get yourself fired up?


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Have resolutions for 2010? Why you won’t stick to them unless you do this


By definition, a resolution is a commitment that an individual makes to a project or the reforming of a habit.

Resolutions are often linked to a lifestyle change that is interpreted as beneficial. These commitments tend to go into effect on new year’s day and remain until fulfilled, or abandoned.

Some of the most popular ones include:

Losing weight, getting fit, eating right, quitting smoking, reducing stress, getting organised, getting out of debt

However, recent studies show that only 12% of people who set new year’s resolutions actually go on to achieve their goals.

– How come, year after year, millions of people all over the world swear over and over again they will stick to their resolutions,  only to give them up, as most people do, a few weeks later?

– How can people abandon such important and beneficial goals they have set for themselves, so easily and quickly?

The answer is simple. The haven’t mastered the art of setting well formed outcomes.

Most people don’t know how to set goals. They like to daydream about what their lives would be like if things were different, they like to think about and talk to other people about ideas, things they would like to do, things they should do…

These are not goals. They are just thoughts. In order for you to achieve your goals, you need to take consistent and focused action. And unless you follow the steps I am going to reveal now, you may find it extremely hard.

If you are serious about sticking to your resolutions this year, make sure you follow these goal setting strategies:

1/ A well formed outcome needs to reflect your values. Your values are your beliefs about what is most important to you in life. These provide inspiration, govern your levels of motivation, and guide every decision you make. They are the standards you live by.

If, for example, health and fitness is one of your values, then this will be imprinted in everything you do. You will behave in a way as to ensure you are healthy and fit, as you will not accept your life any other way.

When you set goals that reflect these, you’ll  want to start taking action right now, never mind waiting until the new year!

2/ If your goals are long term, it is useful to break them down into smaller more attainable mini objectives, so you can realise your progress more easily, and get a sense of accomplishment that will in turn keep you motivated and focused.

If you have a few goals in different areas in life, avoid overload and overwhelm by prioritising and concentrating on those goals that are most important to you right now.

3/ Tell people about your resolutions. Studies show that people who have a supporting family and friends reach their objectives faster , and also live happier and longer lives! This is why support groups of all sorts have proven to be so popular and successful.

If your family and friends are not as supporting as you’d like them to be, finding like-minded people who share the same or similar goals will help you get what you want faster and more easily. And you’ll get to enjoy the process more too.

4/ We are creatures of habit and often get stuck in  particular behaviours that can seem impossible to break, unless you know how to.

In order to build new effortless and lasting habits, you need to crush limiting beliefs, create new more resourceful ones, and attach these to your goals, together with  a bucket load of emotion  and some super effective goal setting tools.

Thinking that you will be able to do this relying solely on will power is a big mistake that will only bring you frustration and disappointment.

Even the most successful entrepreneurs, artist and athletes have coaches, like me, to help them with the necessary mind skills to help them achieve their goals.

If you want to find out what these mind skills are, and the 7 essential steps you need to follow in order to achieve your goals this year, stay tuned for my upcoming coaching programme “7 steps to getting what you want”, out in January!


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How to get motivated – Part I


As a life coach, it is one of the main complaints I hear from my clients: How do I get motivated?

Have you ever noticed (maybe on your way to work in the morning) the usual 6am-er running outside in the middle of winter? You maybe in your car or on the bus, wrapped in layers, sipping a coffee and wishing you’d called in sick.. and your one is running in the rain and cold, in a pair of leggings!

How do they do it?!

The answer is, they discipline themselves to do it, or in other words, they make themselves do it, whether they feel like it or not.

They are no different to you and me. They are certainly not superhuman. But, they most likely have a goal they are working towards, like running a marathon, for example. Whatever their goal is, I bet you it is extremely important for them.

So, they get disciplined. They make sure they do what is necessary, because the pain of not doing it is worst than the pain they get doing it. Does this make sense?

Now, once they are out and they start running, the morning fresh air, the tranquil atmosphere, the motivating music on the ipod, endorphins and other feel good hormones quick in, and that run quickly starts to feel just so right!

It is easier to become motivated once you have started doing what you wanted to be motivated to do.

So, next time you ask yourself how you can get motivated to do something,  just do it! Start doing whatever it is, and watch, hear and feel yourself getting more and more motivated as you do that thing!

There are also very powerful Neuro-Linguistic Programming techniques you can learn to get motivated in an instant.

Whether you want to get super motivated or a little bit motivated, whether you want to get motivated for a long time, or for just a while… when you discover these cutting edge mind techniques  there will be no stopping you!

Stay tuned for “How to get motivated – Part II”, where I will be disclosing the secrets of some of the most super motivated people out there 🙂



Go for it!